Friday, December 14, 2012

Be an Angel

In light of today's tragedy, the mass murder of 27 individuals at a Connecticut school, I felt it necessary to stress the importance of cherishing who and what we have, but also we should remember that there are those who are not as fortunate as we may be.  Events like these are devastating to those who are heavily impacted by the situation, as well as those who are mere witnesses of the story.  We wonder "Why would someone do such a thing?", "What were they thinking?", "He/She must be crazy!".Unfortunately, people who do such a thing are suffering in ways may have never imagined.  Stress, depression, loneliness, helplessness, and anger can become overwhelming for those who feel there is no help.

This time of year, especially, when we are suppose to be focusing on spreading cheer and spending time with our family and friends, not everyone is as lucky to call someone "friend" or even "family".  When events such as this school shooting occur, our hearts are heavy for those who are affected.  Our hearts are heavy because we can't imagine what it must feel like to loose a loved one in such a manner.  Our hearts are heavy because we mourn for the tragic lost of an innocent child.  Our hearts are heavy because we feel helpless to mend the hearts of those who have lost loved ones.

Would you like to hear the good news?  We are not helpless to mend some broken hearts.  Tragedy happens everyday, but we as individuals can make the world a little brighter.  There are thousands of children who are affected by the loss of their loved ones.  Not only in death, but unfortunately adults make careless decisions that also land them in prison.  Even after serving prison terms it may be difficult for parents to regain custody of their children, find a job, and provide for their families.  Children are tossed from one home/relative to another.  This time of year can prove very difficult for them.

Be an Angel this Holiday Season.  Donate gifts at Toys for Tots locations, Volunteer at your local Boys and Girls club, offer help to a struggling parent, donate a gift to a needy family that you hear about in those radio letters.  Right now, a generous donor has agreed to match every $12.58 that is donated to the Salavation Army Angel tree.  Thats right, just $12.58 can help make a difference in more than one child's life.  Visit Salvation Army Angel Tree to make a donation today.  Your local mall may have a physical tree that allows for you to pick a child to purchase gifts for.

Be a light in this dark time.  Make good prevail, if it is within our means.  People are suffering everyday, and unfortunately anger, frustration, and depression may get the best of them, which in turn allows tragic incidents like this occur.

Be the change you wish to see in the world.  Happy Holidays!!

If you decide to donate, volunteer, or adopt an angel, share your story in a comment.  Also, tweet me your responses or holiday pictures @TalkStillCheap1  The first one who comments and tweets me proof that they have made a donation to the Salvation army money tree will recieve a gift from!! GO!

Friday, November 9, 2012

THINK PINK: Save the Tatas (Breast Cancer Awareness Event)

Cocktail cupcakes, treats, and information pamphlets free for all guests!
Thank you to everyone who participated in Breast Cancer Awareness Month.  Whether you made a donation, purchased a PINK Band, wore PINK paraphernalia, donated your time and/or talents, or simply liked a Breast Cancer Awareness post on a social media site, you are appreciated.

This year,myself, along with Black Sea Consulting, The Alliance, Never Stop Dreaming, @MrsKillYoTrack, and Hip Hop Gives Back, hosted an event entitled "THINK PINK: Save the Tatas.  The event was held October 26, 2012 at Room Service Lounge in Atlanta, GA.  Most guests were admitted free admission, wearing PINK.  Guests were provided information on Breast Cancer Awareness and Research.  They also received free giveaways and participated in a balloon release at the end of the night.  There was music, drink specials, food specials, and hookah specials.

It was a beautiful sight and the atmosphere was great.  Check out some of the pictures of guests below and some scenes from the balloon release.

There were vendors on hand selling cake pops, bracelets, and more to raise money for Breast Cancer Research.  In addition to promoting awareness (wearing PINK), sharing awareness( information pamphlets), and spreading awareness (balloon release), the event also donated $100 to the Breast Cancer Research Foundation.  I choose because currently 91 cents of every dollar they spend goes toward Breast Cancer Research and Awareness Programs.  I think that is very significant.

I would also like to thank everyone that donated via this year, and received a AWARENESS band.  Another donation was also made to on your behalf.  If you have any questions, feel free to contact me via


Wednesday, October 24, 2012

NEVER too Much!

World's biggest bra on sale via Ebay!
Ever seen a pair of boobs and thought "wow, those are nice" or "wow, that is a lot"?  Well, meet the world's largest bra.  The size is 1,360B.  This bra is currently hanging on a building in UK, in honor of breast cancer awareness month.  The starting bid for this bra is $800.  Proceeds will be donated towards Breast Cancer Awareness and Research.


Wednesday, September 26, 2012

You Don't Vote, you DON'T COUNT!

In my experience the biggest reason people (those who admit they won't/don't vote) don't vote, is because they feel like their vote does not count.  Especially after the 2000 Presidential Election, my generation has lost their trust in the political system.  I can definitely understand where they are coming from.  However, I believe the fact that most voters do not know how the Presidential election really works, is likely the biggest reason why they believe their vote does not count.  That's okay.  I am more than happy to provide a quick lesson on "how your vote counts" / "how the Presidential Elections works"/ "How votes are calculated" in a Presidential race.

First off, the Presidential race is not like your High School Homecoming race.  In other words, this is not a popularity vote, the person with the most individual "tally marks"/names on a ballot do not necessarily win the race.  The Presidential Race is a STATE ELECTION.  This means you are voting on behalf of your state.  You are voting to declare where you want your state to delegate its electoral college votes.

Each state has a certain number of Electoral College votes, which are based on the number of delegates your state has in Congress (number of delegates in the House of Representatives + number of Senators = number of members in Congress for each state).  A state gets a certain amount of members in the House of Representaives based on the population of that state.  The more people in a state = the more members in the House of Representatives.  Each state gets 2 Senators, regardless of that state's population.  Therefore, states with large populations have more electoral college votes than states with a smaller population (hence California & Florida being key states for Presidential Candidates).  The map above shows how many electoral college votes each state has. (disregard the colors on the map for now)

So, basically your Presidential Vote is a vote on behalf of all the citizens in your state.  You are in essence battling your neighbor to determine which candidate you think best addresses the needs/desires of the citizens in your state.  The popular candidate vote in your state, likely* gets more of  the electoral college votes designated for your state.  The Presidential Candidate with the majority electoral college votes from all states, wins the Presidency.  

Think about it.  You're driving in traffic and you see a disgusting bumper sticker bashing the candidate that you think is best to run this country.  If they bought a bumper sticker, you can bet your bottom dollar they are going to exercise their right to vote.  When the polls open that driver is first in line to vote against you and your candidate.  Imagine there is many more people who share the same views as the driver with the disgusting bumper sticker and they all go out to vote.  On the other hand, you and several others like you, disagree with the opposing candidate, but you don't go out to cast your vote for the candidate you believe is best fit to represent your state.  Your thoughts, your opinions, your disagreements, DON'T count against the group of individuals who take the time to bash your candidate by purchasing a bumper sticker, because you did not Vote!

Don't go unheard, go vote, be COUNTED!


* There are a few happenstances that can occur that may cause some electoral college votes not to go to the candidate with the popular vote.  The law in each state determines if the members of the electoral college have to vote the same way as the popular majority of citizens in their home state.  However, the above description is how the electoral college generally works.  You are encouraged to do your own research on the Electoral College and how votes are weighed and counted.

**UPDATE 3/15/2016 *** How to get more involved in this year's election, check out my campaign HERE

D.I.Y. (Do It Yourself)

Some pieces I purchased.  If you would like a custom bracelet, email me at
let me know the colors and pieces you are interested in. $15/bracelet

I have yet to finish Russell Simmons' book "Super Rich" (don't judge me, I read law books all day and night).   But, what I have read so far, I have internalized.  Click the above link to get the idea behind the book.  In the book he talks about how we can achieve an ultimate "happiness" when we are in tune with our natural gifts/talents and when we use or talents to contribute to the world.  Simmons believes that if you perfect your craft and first give it freely to the world, the world will notice your passion and in turn seek you out to request more of what you produce with your crafts/talents.

I totally agree with the idea of doing what you love and enjoy.  I take the idea of LIVING and not simply being ALIVE, very seriously.  I always make sure I take the time out to do things I enjoy or explore places and things that I have an interest in.  If I lived in those law school books day in and day out, I would go CRAZY!!!!!!! (nearly happened my 1st year)

With that being said, I am a huge fan of D.I.Y. projects.  I've designed and made several different t-shirts ranging from print to tie-dye.  I've designed elastic bracelets that I sold for a breast cancer fundrasier (which is coming back again for the month of October).  And most recently, I've created my own custom beaded bracelets.

Bracelets are currently a "hot" fashion accessory.  My first instinct when I saw others selling their bracelets was, "I can do that".  Why buy from you, when I can make that myself?  (no disrespect to those who craft their own pieces, I often have that initial thought.  I am a DIY junky.)  So, that's exactly what I did.  I made myself two bracelets, based off the designs and colors that I liked and also had not seen before.

Naturally, others noticed my pieces and asked where I got them.  Being able to say "I made it", is the ultimate high for someone who enjoys DIY projects.  So, when the opportunity presented itself for me to make pieces for others, I took it.  The great thing about the opportunity is, making the bracelets are the best part.  Its not work because I enjoy doing it.  Making a profit is just icing on the cake.

I've completed three orders already, just from a post on instagram.  I will be posting pics of those on my instagram RellesLaw!  I am selling each bracelet for $15 with free shipping.  The price is lower than any I've seen, and I think $15 is a nice price to pay for a custom piece that you won't find on anyone else's wrist.  Let me know if I'm wrong.  Interested in your own?  Visit my instagram and comment and/or email me  You design it, pick your own colors and your own jewels.

Thanks for the support! Order yours before I just make myself a boat load of bracelets! ;)  You can also COMMENT on this post!

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

When keeping it "REAL" goes Wrong!

Evelyn Lozada married Chad Johnson on July 4, 2012.

     Congrats to Evelyn Lozada -Johnson and Chad Johnson for beating Kim Kardashian and Chris Humphries, and their "reality" record for shortest marriage.  Today, Lozada filed for divorce from Chad Johnson after a whooping 41 days of marriage (Kim K filed for divorce just 72 days after marriage).  Today Lozada announced she was the victim of domestic abuse, by the hands of her husband Chad Johnson.  Allegedly, this past Saturday, Johnson head-butted Lozada during an argument.  Lozada then ran to her neighbors' to call the police.  Johnson was arrested and held in jail overnight. 

In discussing the matter with my co-worker, I began to belt out the lyrics to Frank Ocean's "American Wedding" before I realized what I was doing.  The lyrics "Its just an American Wedding, they don't mean too much, they don't last enough..." unfortunately reign true if you were to base your opinion of love and marriage on "reality tv".  41 days ... 72 days .... clearly does not add up to a LIFETIME or a FOREVER.

As a result of the incident (of which we have yet to really hear Chad's side), Chad Johnson has been released from his football contract with he Dolphins, and VH1 has decided to drop Chad and Evelyn's upcoming "reality" series.  As you can see, no one wants to be associated with domestic violence.  It is a serious matter.  It seems like all the signs to NOT get married may have been there for Evelyn (rumours of infidelity, constant suspicion, broken relationship with her best friend, etc.)  But, for her, she was in love.  To her, him, them ... this was REAL.  Its unfortunate the things that may happen, when keeping it REAL goes wrong.  You can only pretend for so long, right?

What do you think?  Do you think their union was ever really REAL/GENUINE??  Do you think "REALity tv" took over their chances for a genuine love?  Or, you can't help who you love?? Sometimes we do stupid things in the name of love, right?  Or do we claim "LOVE" so we can do STUPID things?


Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Handcuffed: Who is Responsible?

Chavis Carter died of a gun shot wound to the head,
while handcuffed in the back of a police car.
Arkansa Police alleged that 21 year old Chavis Carter shot himself in the head while handcuffed in the back of a police car.  Carter was arrested after the car he was riding in was found with marijuana and a search of his name yielded an outstanding warrant for his arrest in Mississippi.  Officers confirm that he was searched, in fact they stated he was searched twice.  However, the same police Officers are now confirming that it is possible after both searches Carter was still able to conceal a weapon "on his person"(on his body). 

The gun that was used to shoot and kill Carter, Officers say was a weapon that Carter had hidden on his body throughout both searches.  Carter's mother doesn't believe that Carter would commit suicide.  She stated her son is left - handed, however the gun shot wound was to Carter's right side.  She also stated that Carter called his girlfriend moments before he was arrested and told her he would call her again once he got to the jail.

Officers are claiming their innocence in the shooting and believe that several eye witnesses can attribute to the fact that they never pulled their weapons out and were not standing near the car at the time of the shooting.  They insist "stranger things have happened" while someone was handcuffed.  However, an investigation is now being conducted for this incident.

Even in the unlikely event that Carter shot himself while handcuffed and in the back of the police car, who should be held responsible.  A person is said to be in "custody", when they are not free to leave.  Who is responsible for a suspect once they are in police custody?  Should the Officers be held responsible if this was an accident?  Was it their duty to protect this suspect?  If you found out that is was not the Police's duty to protect this young man's life, would you want the law to be changed?


Friday, August 3, 2012

The Chicken Vote

Left: Chick-fil-A , Right: Group of Pastors launching "Anti-Obama" campaign

Chick-fil-A set a sales record on August 1, 2012, which was dubbed "Chick-fil-A Appreciation day" after the chain received some backlash for its statement on Gay Marriage.  The President of Chick-fil-A stated in an interview "We are very much supportive of the family - the biblical definition of the family unit.."  This answer was given, AFTER the President was asked, in an interview, about Chick-fil-A's stance on Gay Marriage.  

I was surprised that everyone was so surprised at this answer.  Chick-fil-A is closed on Sunday to allow their employees to spend time with their families.  They are definitely known for their religious values.  My guess is the shock factor came because society expects its big businesses to change their views when the views of society seem to change. Same sex relationships are definitely more common today than they were when Chick-fil-A was founded.  

In response, this Friday, the LBGT community plans to host a "National Same Sex Kiss Day at Chick-fil-A."

Chick-fil-A isn't the only entity receiving backlash for its take on Gay Marriage.  A group of black pastors have launched an "anti-Obama" campaign because President Obama has made statements in support of Same-Sex Marriage.  President Obama has publicly stated that he believes that "Same-Sex" couples should be able to get married.  However, he has distanced this statement from any hopes of a policy change for same sex marriages.

The Group of black pastors believe that President Obama has taken the "black vote" for granted.  The launch of this campaign is an effort to "take back our families";  family in the traditional sense, marriage between a man and a woman.    This strategy for taking back the "black vote" from the Obama Campaign suggest that the majority of the black community does not support Same sex marriages.  Is this a safe assumption?

There was a recent poll that suggested that "black women" are more religious than any other group.  At this day and age can we still equate religious background with major political views, like gay marriage?  With the record breaking numbers for Chick-fil-A, it seems that religious values are taking their stance.  It remains to be seen how successful the "Anti-Obama" campaign will go over with the black community.  Their first fundraiser is scheduled to for August 16, 2012 in Memphis, TN.

What do you think?  Was Chick-fil-A appreciation day too much or just right?  Has President Obama taken the black vote for granted by supporting Same Sex Marriage?  If President Obama caught you at Chick-fil-A should he expect NOT to get your vote? Comments

Thursday, August 2, 2012


First and foremost, a HUGE Congratulations is due to Gabby Douglas.  Today she became the First African American to win the women's Olympic "All Around" competition.  She is also the very first woman to win Gold in the "All Around" and in the Gymnastics team competition.  Coming into the competition, Gabby wasn't the one who was expected to win Gold for the U.S.  After the world record holder, Jordan Weiber failed to make the women's "All Around" competition, the door opened up for Gabby to bring it home.  And, that is exactly what she did.

However, unfortunately the "lack luster" media coverage of Gabby throughout the Olympics and the odd nickname of "Flying Squirrel", both have taken a back seat to social media comments on Gabby's hair.  Today I was even likened to a "crab in a barrel" because I tweeted "Gabby's hair hurts my feelings they would send her out like that".  It was shortly after that, I realized how sensitive a lot of people on my TL were being about Gabby's hair.  Throughout the gymnastics coverage I noticed others speak on her hair, some going so far as to calling her hair "nappy".

I personally don't see her hair as being nappy.  To me if someone's hair is nappy it is obvious they took no steps towards its maintenance (comb/brush), but I'm sure everyone has their own definition of "nappy".  As a blogger who tries to ignite conversation via my blog posts, I feel everyone is definitely entitled to their own opinion.  However, I do believe there is a time, place, and a tactful way to discuss things (hence this forum).  As a black woman, a former athlete, and a woman with natural hair, I did not like Gabby's hair.  My disdain comes from the belief that there definitely could have been better ways to manage her hair.  My wish is for her to be presented as beautifully as her teammates and the rest of the athletes.  I'm sure her hair was the last thing on her mind.(or maybe it wasn't)  However, throughout the Olympics commentators stress how big of a WORLD STAGE the Olympics is, and this is true.  Gabby made history tonight.  Little girls throughout the world now have a new role model.  Not saying vanity over talent, but why can't we present Gabby as perfectly as we present the others.  I don't think her hair is nappy but I think it could have had more attention just like the media could've given her accomplishments more attention.  Basically, I think overlooking her hair the way that it was, was a slight ploy to "dumb her down", I felt it was worth mentioning and I won't apologize for that.  Either way I'm glad her smile and her talents ROSE to the Occasion and she is bringing home the GOLD!

However, I know Gabby is "NOT HER HAIR", just like the rest of the world.  My disdain for her hair does not make me think anything less of her character and her talents as a Gymnast.  I think it becomes an issue if negative is all you ever speak on, for instance if anything I ever said about Gabby was in reference to her hair.  As stated earlier, (and always on this blog) its GREAT to have an opinion.  Even better if you think before you speak and have some relative reasoning behind your opinions.  Sometimes the obvious should be discussed, even if it steps on some toes.  Nothing wrong with a healthy debate.  Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and everyone has one.  You may find your opinion on the "wrong" side, but OWN IT! With that being said, let's dialogue.  Leave your comments here.  Should Gabby's hair be totally off limits?  Does speaking about her hair totally distract from her achievements?  With achievements so BIG and so POSITIVE should we never mention any of the negative? Salutes you Gabby Douglas, you have a beautiful spirit that I'm sure won't be overshadowed by controversy!

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Tuesday, July 17, 2012

2012 H.I.V. be Positive ... You're Negative

The FDA (Food & Drug Administration) has been making some major moves these past few weeks.  Just earlier this month FDA approved the first over-the-counter H.I.V. test.  If you have been tested for H.I.V. in the last decade, you are familiar with rapid testing.  With this method you swab the inside of your mouth, and you get test results within 20 minutes.  Similar to an at home pregnancy test, a negative test result does not necessarily put you 100% in the clear. You could possibly test to early to yield a positive result.  Also, just like an at home pregnancy test, a positive result should prompt you to make an immediate doctor appointment for more accurate results.

The FDA also just approved the first pill to prevent the spread of H.I.V.  The drug Truvada was used in a study, in which those who took the pill once everyday reduce their risk of infection by 70%.  The use of this drug is not meant to take the place of condoms or other preventative care.  This drug is more so for those individuals who are involved with partners/parents that are HIV positive.*

In the U.S. alone there are 50,000 new cases of H.I.V. every year.  One in Five people infected with H.I.V. do not know they are infected.  The U.S. is a leader of the First World, highly developed, but still suffers from this epidemic. So, lets not forget to consider those citizens of Third World countries that are also fighting the same epidemic.  For these facts alone, I am excited about the new breaks in HIV research.  But, for my audience (youth and young adults with daily access to social media) I am scared.  

I hate to be one of little faith ... but with the new epidemic of teen pregnancy and the commonality of children out of wedlock, how can I optimistically believe that more people than not would make their partners submit to an on site HIV test, when we feel "awkward" asking them to use a condom?  I cant stress enough, the fact that this new in home test and the approval of these new drugs should NOT be your only method for safe sex.  Just because you test negative for HIV, won't mean you're negative of all other sexually transmitted diseases.  Just because you take a pill everyday, doesn't mean you can't pass on some other life threatening disease.  Can you picture our generation getting on board with the at home H.I.V. test, or would it be considered "doing to much"?  Should the use of the test and/or pills prompt you to disregard the use of condoms?  Should having this test in your bathroom cabinet be your hall pass to bring just anyone home to your bed?

I think these developments are good strides in the race for the cure of H.I.V.  Knowing your status is a great way to prevent spread of the disease and therefore lower the number of new cases of H.I.V. each year.  I think these developments can be a good thing, if we consider them to be extra tools to ensure our health and the health of those we are dealing with.  We have to be smart and we have to remain safe.  Take all the necessary precautions to be POSITIVE that you're NEGATIVE.

*The statements in this blog are based purely on my own personal understanding of articles from several different media outlets.  You are always encouraged to do your own reading and generate your own point of view.  My writing point of view is purposely created to generate critical thinking and discussion.

Sunday, July 15, 2012

Your New Role Models (Not Mine)

Definition of Role Model - A person looked to by others as an example to be imitated.

I am trying to figure out if the author of this featured article used the term "Role Model" for "lack of a better term" or if he/she was really serious about the women on this cover being Role Models.  The cover consist of  Kandi (Real Housewives of Atlanta), Tamar Braxton (The Braxtons) Evelyn (Basketball Wives) and Chrissy (Love & HipHop).  All of these ladies are now stars of reality tv.  Two (Kandi & Tamar) have known success before reality television became a hit.

Now, I am not saying I hate these women and they should not be liked.  I am saying however, the term "new role models" scares me.  To be a role model, means someone aspires to be just like you.  As the proud aunt of two little girls, a God sister to an impressionable teenager, and a cousin and confidant to several younger women, I do not want these ladies to be who they aspire to be.  Although, Kandi & Tamar had fame and success before reality tv, their current claim to fame is Reality television.

The bad thing about reality television is that more people than not, take it for more than what it is suppose to be, ENTERTAINMENT!  There may not be a script (although after watching Love & Hip Hop Atlanta, I think there may be) but a lot of the incidents and feelings that transpire on the camera were created for your entertainment.  The more drama, the more television time (just ask Sheree, Jennifer, and Royce, all of whom were recently let go from their shows).  The women may do good things on the show (charity, awareness, etc.) but that is not why viewers tune in.  Drama is what drives reality television.  Therefore, in order to be a big part of reality television (enough to keep your job on the show) you must also be driven by drama.

If you think that is a stretch, listen to any interview these women ever do (or read this article), and they will say, "People only see a snippet of our true lives" or "People think they know us from the show" or "I want to show people who I really am".  So, if all we see or most of what we see and know about these women come from their television shows (drama), what about their situations makes them someone we should imitate?

Like Andre 3000 said "Someone like you, more like someone unlike you".

Not saying everyone is perfect, but role model, in this situation, is a STRETCH .... Whose to blame, the writer of this article, reality television watchers, ourselves???  Amy I overreacting?  What was your reaction when you saw this cover?


Friday, July 6, 2012

Are you IN or are you OUt?

Celebrities are coming out!
      "The fact is I'm gay, always have been, always will be, and I couldn't be any more happy, comfortable with myself, and proud." This statement was made by Anderson Cooper, one of America's most beloved journalist. When the world is in a crisis, you can't turn on your national news and NOT see his face. You can count on him to deliver the "411" so compassionately that you wouldn't doubt a word he says. 

      Noted U.S. Soccer Olympian, Megan Rapinoe, has recently revealed that she has been in relationship with a woman for three years.  "I feel like sports in general are still homophobic, in the sense that not a lot of people are out..", said Rapinoe.  She stated that she never hid the fact she was gay, but that simply no one ever asked about her sexuality until now.
       Frank Ocean, an up and coming R&B artist (who was recently featured on Jay-Z and Kanye West's album "Watch the Throne"), recently released a statement on his blog revealing that his first love was a man.  As an artist, in a male dominated hip hop arena, some are already labeling Ocean's reveal as a suicide note to his career.
     What do all three of these individuals have in common?  They all have careers in fields that historically have not been so acceptable to the LBGT (lesbian, bi-sexual, gay, transgender) community.  Think about it, when was the last time you sat down to watch the news, a sports game, or a music video and knowingly knew that the main face you were watching was that of a gay individual?  One would consider these careers to be a part of the "don't ask, don't tell" movement. 

     I personally am a fan of Anderson Cooper and a huge fan of Frank Ocean.  Anderson Cooper is set to launch his own television show in the near future, and Frank Ocean has a new album on the way.  Ocean is an amazing artist, and I am not the only one who thinks so (type in Frank Ocean in youtube).

     Should our moral views on sexuality outweigh our appreciation for quality news, sports, and music?  Have these individuals committed "career suicide"?  Time will tell, with these new projects on the way and the Olympics right around the corner, if these individuals can withstand the new test of time .. "being in or being out!

UPDATE **JULY 20, 2012 Frank Ocean's album "Channel Orange" is currently number 2 on the Billboard top 100.  His album sold 131,000 copies its first week.  Just 4,000 shy of Chris Brown's album sales the week before.  Most of his downloads were digital copies, thanks to I-tunes early one week sales of the album.  Also, it is noteworty to mention, that Ocean sold these copies without one of the biggest media retail chain's, Target, help.  Target refused to sell the album because it was released exclusively on I-tunes a week in advance.


Tuesday, April 3, 2012

Stripping, NO Longer a tease!

    Yesterday, the Supreme Court of the United States ruled that a search (particularly a strip search) does not violate your Fourth and Fourteenth Amendments.  The Court decided not to get involved with Police discretion, to decide whether or not a person being arrested should be the subject of a full strip search or not.  In other words, The Supreme Court has ruled that it is well within the authority of a Police Officer to make you the subject of a strip search, if you are going to jail, regardless of what you are going to jail for.

     Therefore, if you do not like to be naked in front of a police officer and don't like to bend over and "spread your cheeks", you may want to stay out of trouble and NOT go to jail.  Staying out of a jail is an easy thing to do right?  Well, this entire Supreme Court case arose from the case of an adult male, who was arrested for an outstanding warrant for an unpaid fine.  This man was taken to two different jails and subject to a strip search at both.  It turns out that the fine had been paid and the warrant was a MISTAKE. But mistakes happen right?  Or recall the woman that recently died in jail, after she was arrested for trespassing at a hospital that she'd just been treated in, because she physically could not move her legs to leave the hospital after treatment.

     Better safe than sorry right?  Did you know that one of the terrorist who hijacked a plane on Sept. 11th, was pulled over for a traffic violation just a few weeks before the attacks?  An argument has been made, that MAYBE if he was then subject to a complete strip search, he could have been found with some illegal substances, that would have landed him in jail and prevented the Sept. 11 attacks.  Police are sworn to protect the public, and the U.S. Government has the power to enforce laws that will protect the health and safety of the general public.  So, for your protection, everyone arrested and taken to jail to be detained with the general population must STRIP.  Drive with a busted headlight, don't pay your tickets, participate in a protest, don't pay your child support, or even be in the wrong place at the wrong time, get ready to bare it all.

What do you think?  Should everyone going to jail be subject to a full strip search, regardless of their offense and regardless of a Police officer having a reasonable suspicion that you are carrying an illegal substance?


Monday, March 5, 2012


     There is one comment that sticks out in my mind that India Arie said during an interview on the red carpet about the sudden death of Whitney Houston.  Take a look at it below ...

     At first I kind of thought the words were just a tad bit harsh.  Just a tiny bit .... but then I shook that feeling off when she added that part that Whitney, of course, was gone to soon.

     However, India made a great point.  Whitney LIVED!! The concept of living, not just being alive, is one that I seriously embrace.  India's interpretation of living included the facts that Whitney did what she loved (singing), She loved (God, daughter/family & I'm convinced was at one point madly in love with Bobby Brown), she was loved (millions of Fans), she traveled, & she was accomplished (broke world records, won awards, most memorable Super Bowl performance).

    I've had this thought in my head since seeing the interview.  I finally took the time to share it via my blog.  My spirit is telling me that someone must need to hear this.
     I, like the rest of the world, am a fan of Whitney Houston.  She won me over as the God Mother of Cinderella, alongside Brandy.  One of her songs, is the only song I've ever performed during Karaoke.  (fun, fun, fun)  So I would like to formally pay my respects.  R.I.P. Whitney Houston.

     Oprah has the first interview of the family and Bobbi Kristina.  I look forward to that, and I hope it clears up some nasty cases of speculation, in regards to Houston's estate so the Houston family can remember her legacy in peace.


Tuesday, January 17, 2012

What about your Legacy?!?

The world was all a "Buzz" when reliable sources revealed that Beyonce and Jay Z, finally welcomed their new born daughter Blue Ivy Carter to the world.  Blue Ivy quickly became the #1 trending topic on twitter.  "Is it true?"  "Was Beyonce really pregnant?"  "Did she have a girl or boy?"  "I want to see pictures. " "Beyonce and Jay Z are Illuminati and therefore their baby is too."  These are just a few of the things people were discussing in regards to the delivery of baby Carter.

Yesterday marked the only federally recognized National day of service, and also the day designated to honor Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.  However, in my frequent checks of the twitter trending topics, Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was NOT found at the top of that list.  Sometimes he wasn't even on the list.  Nor was the word "service" a trending topic on twitter.

Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., a man that could arguably be considered the one who changed the "face of America", by being a "Drum Major for Justice", is not worthy to be the #1 topic of discussion on twitter.  He was not worthy, even when so many of twitter users, were probably at home enjoying the day off.

However, Blue Ivy Carter, whose claim to fame is having superstar parents and being the youngest person ever to make the Billboard Music Charts, is worthy of continuous conversation despite not having said one speech (yet alone one word).

What does that say about our priorities?  While Jay Z and Beyonce are at home creating a legacy of their own.  What are we doing in our daily lives, that could create just as much as an impact as their child has on the entire world?

Who do we consider more influential in this day and age,  Baby Blue or Martin Luther King Jr.  I know it is probably not fair to even attempt to compare the two. But, I like to stir the pot.  Like the name of this website states, "Talk is still Cheap".  We talk about everything under the moon, but what ACTIONS are we taking to be a change in the world?  Sometimes we have to take a look at what we are talking about on a daily basis, and compare that to our daily actions.  Are you talking about those creating a legacy of their own, or are you out there creating one yourself?