Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Hip Hop Statistics

Crack the lyrics : Lyfe "Statistics"

*BEFORE WE GET INTO THIS LET ME SAY, I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS SONG BY LYFE JENNINGS!! If you haven't heard the track you can listen here.  I think it has come at a time well needed, where "blond bombshells" and newly transformed "bad girls" are prominent displays for relationship advice for our young women. Also recognize music is for entertainment, however this blog seeks to generate CRITICAL THINKING, by discussing popular culture.*

The song, Statistics, is an offer of tactics to women to recognize and keep a "good man".  The statistics come into play, when Lyfe generates a percentage of categories to describe ALL MEN!  Basically, Lyfe is giving you his opinion of the different ways you can describe a man.  Every man fits in at least one of the categories he suggests, based on the way they act.  In his opinion, only 10% of men in the entire population are "good" and worth keeping around if you want to be in a healthy relationship.

Here  is Lyfe's breakdown:
25% of all men are unstable
25% of all men can't be faithful
30% of them don't mean what they say
and 10% of the remainin' 20 is gay
That leaves only a 10% chance of finding YOUR MAN
15% of all men got a complex
15% of all men don't practice safe sex
20% of them are from homes without a father
so there's a 50/50 chance that you'll marry a coward

Using Lyfe's lyrics do you think that all men can be labeled in at least one of these categories (unstable,unfaithful, liar, gay, complexed, sexual promiscuous, or fatherless & therefore potentially soft or unmanly)?  If a man fits in one of these categories is he unable to be a "good man"?  Is a man that does not fit in one of these categories the perfect man?
Lyfe also suggests some rules women can follow to keep the perfect man, don't be a booty call, don't be the other woman, be celibate (make him work for it), and be the person you want to find.  Do you think these rules will work (need more rules, need less)?

Monday, June 14, 2010


First off, let me apologize for not updating the site for a while.  These last few weeks have been life changing.  To sum it up, in the last three weeks I have quit my job, went on vacay (Miami, South Beach), and started Law School, full time.  Needles to say, I am a happy camper.  I got out of a situation that I did not want to be in (working 9 to 5, *actually 2 to 1030pm* including Sundays & weekend ugh) and am presently in the process of doing what I love.  Law School is a lot of reading, analyzing, and writing.  But to me the topics are interesting.  I made the comparison to someone the other day, that me being in Law School was like reading a very good book, the only difference is I can't put the book down whenever I choose, or I'd be behind on understanding and presentation of my class assignments.

Anyway, that is another story.  Another change I have recently made is embracing my natural hair.  I have been growing my hair out for over three years now.  It went from extremely short and shaved in the back, to the afro you see above (a little bigger now, this pic is was in January).  Like a lot of women, my age and ethnicity, I did some damage to my hair that forced me to cut it without having any say so in the manner (if I wanted to look decent).  From that point on, I decided, no more chemicals/relaxers, at least not for a while.

Although, for the most part of my adult life I have always been comfortable with msyelf, it was not until recently, when I came face to face with being completely natural (free of weaves), that I discovered I was not as comfortable with being myself, as I would have liked to thought I was.  I originally wore braids and weaves to help my hair grow (by having it braided and secure, and therefore free from heat damage and improper care).  Even after my hair grew significantly (as in above afro pic), I still continued to wear weaves because I was under the impression that I could not style my natural hair in a way that would make me feel "comfortable" out in public.

I have since, found this to be untrue, personally.  Although, this is just my natural beginning (beginning in the sense that I just began to wear my own hair, without any assistance, not beginning in the sense that I just began to GROW my hair without chemicals).  Personally,  I like that I can style my hair and not be concerned with its appearance throughout the day, because I have sweated it out.  I like the fact that I can be versatile in appearance, I can wear my hair straight, "fro"'d, twisted, twisted out, mo-hawk etc., you never know what I'm going to do on any given day.  Unlike if I went to the beauty shop to style my hair, I probably wouldnt change the style immediately after.  This benefit of being natural, definitely reflects my personality in general.

I will stop this post for now, dont want to make it to long.  I just wanted to share my story with you all.  I know the topic of "good hair" has been popular lately.  I will make a post soon on the responses I have gotten from family, friends, and even strangers, in just the short week I have been wearing my natural hair.  I'm sure you will find the responses quite amusing. 

I will say this, you have to have "tough skin" to go along with "tough hair".

COMMENTS!!!  Do you like my hair in any of the above pictures?  If so, which one(s)?  Which one do you like more and why (as it pertains to my hair in the pics)?

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