Saturday, March 6, 2010

#FAMU Sex tape SCANDAL real or FAKE?!?

So I struggled with the notion of blogging about the infamous "FAMU sextape". I asked some of my readers and my twitter fam if they thought I should. Of course them being the wonderful drama loving people they are (lol, j/k they adore my point of view & I appreciate them), thought that I should blog on the subject. (some of you also said you would comment, I know who you are, I wont forget).

I made it clear that if I did a post on the sextape that it would be a post of my thoughts and that it probably WOULD NOT be a NICE post! Of course I had to do my own research before I released my stance on the issue.

Is the FAMU sextape REAL?!?

Either way, real or not, the thought of it it being linked to "OUR" HBCUs is disgusting & hurtful in sooooo many ways.

As of today, Saturday, March 06, 2010, it has been determined that the alleged sextape was not filmed in any facility/dorm on the campus of FAMU. After this story made headlines around the world, the staff, including President of FAMU, James Ammons, had to get involved. Ammons issued a memo stating "It has been determined, however, that the residential facility featured is not a FAMU dormitory". Some members of the FAMU faculty had to "review" the tape. Although described as a "tedious processs" it made it apparent that the incident did not take place on campus. The placement of windows, the crown molding of rooms featured in the tape, and even the pink tile in the restrooms featured, were not those similar to any building found on the campus.

The use of the name "Rattlers" in the title of the film, and the placement of the institution's mascot (snake with green & orange colors) in the video suggest that the film was shot on the campus.

It has not yet been determined if the people involved in the video were students of the institution. However, upon further digging myself, I do NOT believe that they were students.

#FAMU became a #TT (trending topic, for those of you not familiar with the twitter world), following the days that the sextape & link were leaked. One night I just sat and reviewed random tweets that used the #FAMU #tt, just to see the general response. I found some interesting things......

1. No one who mentioned being a current student at the University, stated that
any one person in the film looked familiar.(i.e shared a class, book, lunch)
2. No one who mentioned attending the University stated that they knew exactly
where the film was shot (i.e. hey thats my old freshman dorm or ___ building)
3. Students who attend the University came together to "roast" the chicks that
were on the tape, that also had twitter accounts (they were NOT pleased)
4. One lady featured in the tape tweeted "Of course I got paid, dis #*@&
aint free WTF u thought! LMAO ITS GET MONDY SEASON &$#@%es!!! (she later
erased it)
5. Another lady deleted her twitter account, once it was exposed that she was
apart of the tape, however she did not disappear, she created a new page
@RealFamusextape (she would like to address your concerns...smh)
6. ON neither timeline, did either one of the ladies give reference to attending
the University, neither before nor after the scandal broke..they will however
acknowledge that they GOT PAID!

.......TO BE CONTINUED....... follow me on & my blog's twitter page

Tuesday, March 2, 2010


When I was in undergrad, a dated a guy that lived in Memphis, although I attended school in Atlanta. One paticular visit home, we went out & he decided to give me a gift. For no reason in paticular (he was always very thoughtful). The gift he gave me was a box.

He was an older guy, but I'm pretty mature for my age and we always had good conversation. He was always interested in what I was up to, what I was achieving in college, and what new ventures I decided to tackle. Very, very, supportive. He always asked about my days, my projects, my grades, my internships, my community service...or whatever I had going on. He would give me words of encouragement & without a doubt he would let me know he was INTERESTED in my LIFE! Inside this gift, this box.....were NAPKINS

Each napkin had words of endearment written on them. My close friends know about the "infamous" box of napkins. Honestly, I was a bit thrown off by the gift. I don't know maybe at the time, being young & in college going back & forth, I either didn't believe or want to believe the phrases written on the napkin. Thought it was creative, but really I could care less about it. I left home that trip and went back to Atlanta WITHOUT the "box of napkins". Now I am back home in "Memphis" and I recently found the BOX. I sat down and opened it & read each napkin.

You know that saying "If someone shows you who they really are, BELIEVE them"? I definitely try to follow that rule, because its truth. People can say one thing, but they are going to do what they really FEEL like doing. He didn't have to give me a gift, and I didn't have to be so unappreciative...but hey that's how he felt & how I felt at the time. Between now & the time I first received this gift, my friend has absolutely told me (in one way or another) each of the phrases on these napkins (I can even imagine him saying "You are my Sunshine", even tho I don't think he's said that one lol). Through his continued support of my life decisions he has also proven that he meant every word as well. NEEDLESS to say I now......LOVE MY BOX of NAPKINS!!!

We can find pleasure & assurance in the simplest things, if we'd just stop & Appreciate them!

I've been speaking in past tense, but this man is still present in my life, he's still very supportive & I APPRECIATE that........ you know who you are :)

I'm a lucky girl.....


Monday, March 1, 2010

1st of the Month : Being ALONE

I consider myself to be EXCELLENT, GREAT, AWESOME, Company. I can be alone and make myself smile, laugh, cry, frown, or curse without saying a word. I use my thoughts alone, just thinking ( more times than not I'm probably writing too).

When forced to be in a room, alone, with your personal thoughts and feelings where does your mind wander? I tend to get a lot done while folding, hanging, and washing clothes or washing dishes. I reflect on the past week's events. What he said to make me sooooo mad. That text I received that made me smile. That black history speech I have learn by tomorrow. Or that email I need to send to my mentor liason. I think about it, and therefore I set my mind to complete these tasks. I make decisions on who stays or goes in my life, and what and does and does not matter. I invision where I want to be next year. The law school acceptance letter I will receive. The bathing suit I'm going to wear when I visit L.A. again. The new living arrangement, when I decide what law school I will attend. Then I sit and develop a plan to achieve those goals. I write a to do list/goals list.....and you can bet next month or next year I will be looking back and checking things off of my lists. But first, I know it all must start with a I get to it!!

I said all that to say this..... sometimes we get caught up with going, going, going, doing, doing, doing from day to day, that we don't spend enough time with ourselves to figure out where the hell we are going.

I know for sure some of you are living your life according to what others are doing and where they are going. Well, just a heads up. You can't go where they are going. You can't do what they are doing. They probably already sat down and planned their own agenda, with a detailed plan to reach their goals/destination. And you, you're just going for the ride, and have no idea where you're going. SHAME ON YOU!!!

Are we so scared to be alone, that we always have to be around somebody? Always have to go some where, when we can just be at home enjoying ourselves and/or family? Don't get me wrong, we all need some R&R sometimes, we all want to break a sweat sometimes, meet someone new, shake a leg, and travel. But all the time?

I think if you're alone for too long you may actually like yourself! ( I hope that you do, if you don't you need to work on that). Some of you, I believe are scared to be alone because you're scared of facing the truth about yourself. REALITY! COME BACK!!! All of a sudden you look at yourself and find that you haven't accomplished anything worth while & you haven't set yourself up to accomplish anything in the future.

What are you going to do?

I say take a time out, put your nose in a corner & think about it ALONE!!

You may read this & know for sure it does not apply to you! For those of you that have it ALL figured out or at least attempting to figure it out, Give yourself a pat on the back. Better yet, share your success in a comment. I know in my younger days, I always wanted to go somewhere & do the latest popular thing to do. Now that I'm older & wiser I cherish the days where I can sit & do nothing & I only hope you experience that time with yourself SOONER than LATER!