Monday, June 14, 2010

PRETTY uGLY



First off, let me apologize for not updating the site for a while.  These last few weeks have been life changing.  To sum it up, in the last three weeks I have quit my job, went on vacay (Miami, South Beach), and started Law School, full time.  Needles to say, I am a happy camper.  I got out of a situation that I did not want to be in (working 9 to 5, *actually 2 to 1030pm* including Sundays & weekend ugh) and am presently in the process of doing what I love.  Law School is a lot of reading, analyzing, and writing.  But to me the topics are interesting.  I made the comparison to someone the other day, that me being in Law School was like reading a very good book, the only difference is I can't put the book down whenever I choose, or I'd be behind on understanding and presentation of my class assignments.

Anyway, that is another story.  Another change I have recently made is embracing my natural hair.  I have been growing my hair out for over three years now.  It went from extremely short and shaved in the back, to the afro you see above (a little bigger now, this pic is was in January).  Like a lot of women, my age and ethnicity, I did some damage to my hair that forced me to cut it without having any say so in the manner (if I wanted to look decent).  From that point on, I decided, no more chemicals/relaxers, at least not for a while.

Although, for the most part of my adult life I have always been comfortable with msyelf, it was not until recently, when I came face to face with being completely natural (free of weaves), that I discovered I was not as comfortable with being myself, as I would have liked to thought I was.  I originally wore braids and weaves to help my hair grow (by having it braided and secure, and therefore free from heat damage and improper care).  Even after my hair grew significantly (as in above afro pic), I still continued to wear weaves because I was under the impression that I could not style my natural hair in a way that would make me feel "comfortable" out in public.



I have since, found this to be untrue, personally.  Although, this is just my natural beginning (beginning in the sense that I just began to wear my own hair, without any assistance, not beginning in the sense that I just began to GROW my hair without chemicals).  Personally,  I like that I can style my hair and not be concerned with its appearance throughout the day, because I have sweated it out.  I like the fact that I can be versatile in appearance, I can wear my hair straight, "fro"'d, twisted, twisted out, mo-hawk etc., you never know what I'm going to do on any given day.  Unlike if I went to the beauty shop to style my hair, I probably wouldnt change the style immediately after.  This benefit of being natural, definitely reflects my personality in general.

I will stop this post for now, dont want to make it to long.  I just wanted to share my story with you all.  I know the topic of "good hair" has been popular lately.  I will make a post soon on the responses I have gotten from family, friends, and even strangers, in just the short week I have been wearing my natural hair.  I'm sure you will find the responses quite amusing. 

I will say this, you have to have "tough skin" to go along with "tough hair".

COMMENTS!!!  Do you like my hair in any of the above pictures?  If so, which one(s)?  Which one do you like more and why (as it pertains to my hair in the pics)?

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2 comments:

  1. Hey Relle, I'm digging hair in the first and last pic. I'm sure the fro is hot too but I cant tell with you playing around in the pic and without accessories. I LOVE natural hair, but I can NOT rock it. It's not for everybody!! One day this chick walked by me in the club and she had this froish/ponytail thing going on. I stopped her and told her how beautiful I thought her hair was. When she walked off my friend said "why did you tell that lie".. I told her that I didnt lie, that I actually liked it. My friend then said "would you wear your hair like that". My answer to that was "HELLLLLL NAW, but it was cute on her" LOL. I cant wait to see what different styles you come up with for your new journey. I'm sure you'll wear it well ;)

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  2. I'm glad you made that point. Natural isn't for evertone and no one should conclude they are not comfortable with themselves if they wear pieces or "process" their hair. I was certain to use the term "personally" to express that these were my thoughts. Shoot I'm all for weaves and the convenience they provide. Again, that my personality, being stylish but comfortable enough to put your own twist on things.

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